And, this is why we have a #MeToo movement. So much was just assumed to be okay and it wasn't.

We are in the same age range, Terry, I remember being one of those girls who was touched and didn't want to be. But, who would you tell? Back then, it was considered the girl's fault, no matter the circumstances. Why were you there with those boys in the first place? What did you expect? Etc.

And, yes, some girls did want the touching - hoped for it, maybe even begged for it. But, the others, like me, just want to be at the party or the dance or the cookout or wherever.

Were the boys to blame? Yes and no. I doubt if they were taught differently by their fathers, who undoubtedly, did the same when they were young. Mothers rarely talked to boys about such things back then - though, they should have.

Boys egged each other one. Peer pressure is powerful. Even good consciences struggle under those circumstances.

I just hope we are educating our boys now that it isn't okay and our girls that they don't have to go along with it and don't have to stay silent and won't be blamed for simply wanting to hang out with friends.

Thanks for sharing your story. It’s powerful.

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