Anuschka, change is the one thing that doesn’t change! I believe that is the most stressful problem for society in general and change becomes more challenging with age. Now, with that said, I don’t like everything to always stay the same — I enjoy variety — but I want some control over what changes and when. I look back at the adults when I was a child and other than health issues that might arise unexpectedly, I recall their lives having more consistency and them having more control than we do now. Daily, we have to rush just to keep up. I am moving tomorrow and Friday. Yesterday and today I will work a total of at least 22 hours. Last night I was packing at 10 pm and tonight will be worse. I will have to move all day tomorrow and Friday and then try to catch up at work in the evenings. I can’t even have two full days off to move!

I can’t imagine the stress of change in your situation. My two young grandchildren lived with me until two months ago. Their mother works in retail and her schedule is different every day and every week. I tried to give them some balance and consistency but even with office work, my schedule fluctuated. I could see a huge difference in their attitudes and schoolwork when our lives had patterns and predictability. Unfortunately, that was rarely the case.

I hope you achieve balance and peace.

I was always a writer but lived in a bookkeeper’s body before I found Medium and broke free — well, almost. Working to work less and write more.

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