He wasn't calling out my errors, Marne, I was calling out his. Many of the things he criticized my friend or me for were not even correct - she was not married to a lawyer, she didn't hate her job, she didn't chain-smoke, etc. I never wrote any of those things. And, then he made statements about narcissism that simply were not true. How dare anyone criticize another's survival techniques?? And, how dare a man find fault in a woman's methods for coping with and for escaping from a dangerous predator??