I would definitely like to read your article.

I believe in energy but I believe more that what you choose when you are in that negative or positive energy field is what matters. There are places I can’t stand to be and people I don’t want to be around because their energy is so negative, or chaotic, or overwhelming. And, I agree, those who seem to emit the worst energy — negative, chaotic, overwhelming — seem to “attract” the worst “luck”. But, rather than it being an attraction of bad juju or whatever, I think that the negative energy of the person prohibits him/her from making good decisions. It is a pattern that they can’t seem to shake.

I think changing your energy may help to break a negative pattern, sometimes following advice and making a decision different than what you would normally choose can change the pattern, or sometimes you get a wake-up call by having a bad experience or a health scare or an accident that leads you to change your energy, usually unconsciously, and thereby, you break the pattern.

Personal example:

My mother died when I was 3 months old. My father remarried when I was 2 1/2 and they divorced when I was four. I was raised by my father who had strong narcissistic tendencies and who was not very good at being a single dad. I grew up fast. I also longed to have a warm and loving dad, a dad that put his kids first, a dad that was nurturing and encouraging. I spent my life trying to please him in hopes that he would become the dad I wanted and needed. He emotionally and mentally abused me for years and took advantage of my loving and generous nature. He used me. He lied to me. He alienated everyone in our family but me. I stuck by him. I was also stuck in my life. Nothing was going right — my marriage, finances, etc.

One day, my dad said something — something no worse than what he had said in the past — but I felt a shift inside. Something told me to get him out of my life. I could have waffled and not followed that voice. I could have stayed because he was old and had health issues and had no one else. To this day, almost 20 years later, I marvel that I walked away and never looked back. As soon as he was out of my life, things began to change but after a short while, they stalled. I had another voice in my head telling me to leave my husband but I could not seem to do it. I stayed and things got worse. The energy in our home was suffocating. Everything we touched went bad. After a few years, someone came into my life who helped me see that I was again in a mentally and emotionally abusive relationship. I listened to that person and the voice that again told me to leave and I left. My life improved dramatically.

I think we get stuck in negative patterns and like a rat in a maze, we can’t seem to find a way out. We wallow in the negativity. When opportunities to escape appear, we can’t see them. If we can just shake off a little of the negativity to see the door in front of us and if we can summon up enough courage, we can change our lives and get rid of the negativity. Courage is needed and when someone is beaten down by life and surrounded by negativity, courage is difficult to summon. Courage may be the most important factor in breaking the pattern.

So, yes, I believe in energy but not as it relates to the LoA. I, too, believe the universe is a pool of energy and we are and of that pool.

I also know that hard work will not always give you what you want or even what you need or deserve. I too know many hard-working people who barely survive. The story of my friend was an illustration of how success obtained by hard work, dedication, and knowledge is often attributed to LoA. Heck, I am one of the hardest working people I know and although I do okay, I am far from what most would call successful.

When I look at successful, happy people that I know, I think the biggest difference between them and me or them and other people is their courage and self-confidence. Where I hesitate and worry, they march forward with confidence and courage.

As Jonas was saying in his article, there is a difference in rumination and reflection. My natural tendency is to ruminate. I have a client who makes rapid decisions — big decisions — and I marvel at how he does that. Just one of the those big decisions he makes every day would leave me thinking and considering and ruminating for weeks! He is successful, well loved in the community, an interesting and fun guy to be around, and he is always positive. And, I believe he is all those things because he is extremely self-confident and very courageous. He has faith that the decisions he makes are the right ones. He does not second guess. He leaps. Maybe, the answer to all these questions is courage. If someone in a negative situation had enough courage, they would surely leap out of that situation. Maybe, it is all about courage.

I was always a writer but lived in a bookkeeper’s body before I found Medium and broke free — well, almost. Working to work less and write more.

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