My father, who was overweight most of his adult life, once said my ass was as wide as a barn door. My previous husband said, during sex, that my thighs were too jiggly and I needed to do squats — that happened while I was recovering from anorexia and weighed less than the recommended amount for my height and age. And, the man speaking was 30 lbs overweight with a belly that protruded over his belt!Women are definitely held to a different standard than men.

The best benefit of aging, at least for me, was learning to not give a damn. Once you are too old to be young and gorgeous, you can concentrate your efforts on being healthy, wise, creative, fun, and comfortable. I wear what pleases me, even at work. My hair is now super short because it’s easy and I like it. No heels because they are pure torture and my goal is to not spend my final years torturing myself.

Yep, this aging thing has its advantages!

I was always a writer but lived in a bookkeeper’s body before I found Medium and broke free — well, almost. Working to work less and write more.

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