No pain experienced here because, like you, once I let go of the people who added nothing to my life, the pain disappeared. Your piece just reminded me of how my father’s death was uneventful emotionally, like the closing of a door that was only slightly ajar, making no difference if it were completely closed or not.

I have no blood family with whom I still maintain contact, and I am okay with that. I’ve created a new family, one that deserves my love and attention. And, of course, there is Medium, a virtual family but a family nonetheless.

Facebook was another family I released a year ago, realizing that most of my “friends” there meant nothing to me; friends only because we had some flimsy connection from long ago or an acquaintance in common. I closed my account and, after great consideration over many weeks, I opened another while being very careful who I allowed into my new Facebook family. From 400+ to 35 friends. A decrease that only increased the pleasurable interactions I have. Haven’t missed anyone that I chose not to invite to my new Facebook family.

Learning to let go, especially without regret or guilt, is one of the most difficult lessons of life.

I was always a writer but lived in a bookkeeper’s body before I found Medium and broke free — well, almost. Working to work less and write more.

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