Oh, dear Linda, I could have written this many, many times in my life. Ironically, I heard The Boys of Summer yesterday and thought of all that is gone and won't return. I have no answers and no words of wisdom. I can tell you what helps me live in today and not in the past - being in nature. That may not work for you but nature, and particularly birds, keep me sane when all around me is steeped with insanity.
My husband nearly died this summer. He is alive but isn't the man I knew. Will that man come back? No one knows. I long for what we had but it feels more and more like a dream, not a reality that I experienced. I steal moments in nature so I can keep breathing.
Hoping you find a way to embrace today, even when it feels less than the past because it's all we have.