Oh, Jess, I could have written this 13 years ago to my first husband. I know that pain and frustration from trying so hard for so long to help someone who won’t help himself. I know the discouragement and fear and exhaustion. I know what it’s like to finally give up and to feel like a fool for not walking away long before and to feel like a failure for walking away now. I also know the relief that follows and the disappointment with myself for feeling relieved. But, most of all I know the new life that awaits when you act boldly and courageously in spite of feeling weak and frightened. My spirit is with you.

I was always a writer but lived in a bookkeeper’s body before I found Medium and broke free — well, almost. Working to work less and write more.

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