So much of this comes from religion. Many years ago, I attended a church that taught all marriage failures were the fault of the wife — if all women were “good” wives, marriages would never fail. Living here in the Bible Belt of America, it is still common for that sentiment to be taught or expressed. My argument at that church many years ago was, “How can we be the ones responsible for the success or failure of a marriage when we have no power, when we are supposed to “submit” to the man?” At least, that is what they taught.
I didn’t last long in that church!