Thank you for sharing your story, Tasneem! One of the most difficult lessons that I didn’t learn until late in life is that very few situations or relationships are supposed to live forever. They really do have seasons and trying to hold something or someone whose time has passed is detrimental to all.

That is why I don’t like the Facebook dynamic of staying connected forever or reconnecting with those who have left and should stay gone. If we didn’t write or call for years, why should we be friends on Facebook? These are not healthy, genuine friendships but contrived and unnatural relationships. Honestly, I don’t need to be Facebook friends with some girl in my elementary school to whom I haven’t spoken in 57 years!

A sudden and inexplicable ending to a relationship can generate confusion and lots of questions on top of the hurt but the answers may be unnecessary. Some questions need to remain unanswered. Some people who leave need to remain gone. And, we need to release and let go to move on.

I was always a writer but lived in a bookkeeper’s body before I found Medium and broke free — well, almost. Working to work less and write more.

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