The two times I tried smoking marijuana in my long-ago youth, I was racked with debilitating headaches. The shoot-me-now sort of headaches that I never experienced before or after. What you describe is how I felt when I took Lexapro. Manaic. Out-of-control. Unable to remember everyday responsibilities. Spending money like a Kardashian. Racing around without sleep.
I was fortunate not to have any menopausal problems. I hope you find relief somehow, someway.