Women around the world are subjected to the deplorable behavior of men in public places. Society winks and says Boys will be boys, leaving us frightened, unprotected, violated, and vulnerable. We live with a constant fear of men that robs us of peace, freedom, and contentment. The unfettered actions of men imply the guilt is ours, not for what we do or don’t do but for who we are, for the unchosen gender given to us at conception.

Where I live the problem is less prominent and flagrant than you experience, Indira, but still women here are hesitant to be out and about after dark, always cognizant of where we walk, where we park, who is nearby, how close a man walks to us. We cover our drinks in bars, carry our car keys in our hands, have pepper spray handy, and keep doors and windows locked.

We fear being stranded due to car problems, are suspicious of male strangers, and avoid being alone with men we don’t know well. We rarely travel far without companionship and are reluctant to open our doors when home alone. We live in a constant state of angst and vigilance.

I am happy you were able to obtain a car to eliminate the need of public transportation where men assume the right of sexual harassment as their birthright.

Your piece is a #MeToo statement.

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