Yes, Pamela, I know there is no timetable. Please see my response to Lorraine. I really think a big part of it is that he is retired and I work — a lot. He looks forward to me coming home and then I am sad, depressed, or crying. But, as you say, I need time to figure out how to live with it.
I am sorry about your twin brother — how tragic! I admire you for not only participating in but also facilitating the Twinless Twins Support Group.
Thanks for your support and kind words. And, you are correct, writing helps.