You write the truth, Shani. I work with a young woman who is getting divorced and her biggest fears of singlehood are those you listed.

Interestingly, my husband and I prefer single female friends. Most of the men around here, single and married, are blowhards, rednecks, and/or Trump supporters who do little or nothing at home and only acknowledge their children who play sports or go hunting with them. It’s actually very difficult to get to know a woman when her husband is present because husbands tend to dominate the conversation.

Also, when couples gather, the tendency here is for the men to congregate together, usually in the living room, while the women, and small children, are in the kitchen, usually preparing food or cleaning up after eating, or seated at the dining table.

My experience is that married women gathered together in situations like that are boring, their conversations focused on kids, homes, and husbands. Separate one from the others and she’s delightfully fascinating.

Our single female friends are intelligent, educated, interesting, thoughtful, and great conversationalists who listen as well as they talk, and they live full, accomplished lives without husbands.

I was always a writer but lived in a bookkeeper’s body before I found Medium and broke free — well, almost. Working to work less and write more.

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