Your culture puts great importance on marriage? We had a student from China live with us for several months a few years ago. She is under so much pressure from her family and society in general to marry. But, she has withstood the pressure and is now, at 28, considered almost unmarriagable and she is okay with that. She is happily concentrating on her career and traveling, not worried at all about conforming to what others want for her.

Don’t know if that is your situation or if you simply want to be in a relationship. My experience has been to stop searching when I want something and it unexpectedly will find me.

I was always a writer but lived in a bookkeeper’s body before I found Medium and broke free — well, almost. Working to work less and write more.

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