Your essay, Louis, cries for what we all want and want to believe in - forever, happily ever after, continuation, stability, acceptance.
We are fed these beliefs like cereal and milk on Saturday mornings.
They do exist. They are born and flourish and then, they age and die. Just like we do. Does dying mean we didn't exist? Of course not. And, a marriage that was once good will always be once good, until it got bad.
Aging taught me to embrace impermanence. To accept change and transition and the all the new they bring.
Truth is, growing pains don't stop when we're grown. Growing pains are a type of grief. It hurts to move from one stage to the next. But, staying a child forever is less attractive, don't you think? So is staying in a relationship you've outgrown.